Aren't There Enough Obstacles in Life?

"The voice of your inner limitation will cry loudly when you begin to surpass it" 

--Brianna Wiest

I did something new this week. I participated in my first podcast. Terrifying? Yes. But completely in line with the agreement I have made with myself that I need to keep stepping outside of my comfort zone. Baby steps.

I also found a sticky note I had written to myself long ago.  Attached to a book and folded in on itself. When unfolded it read:

“Identity is based on repetition. Repeat what brings you joy...and become that.”

But when you are doing something for the first time, it’s the FIRST time. Meaning, if I like it, I can repeat it. But this is new. And “new” sets my head spinning.

I don’t know when I wrote myself that note, but I do believe that if I want to BE different, I have to learn to DO different. That includes taking on new and unknown adventures.

Maybe it is my age, but I am starting to really wonder...aren’t there enough obstacles to being human and relating in the real world without adding all the unrealistic fears in our head? I may not know what I am doing, but what do I really have to lose?

I was not surprised that the Brianna Wiest quote noted here popped up this week. My inner limitation voice was screaming at me. For me, anything “new” means I am crossing some unknown internal boundary. And all of my ghosts and critics come out to play.

At the same time, how do I really know what my inner limitation is? After all, I spent so many years convincing myself it was something far less than what I have actually been able to accomplish in the past few years. My inner limitations are arbitrary. And they were set by someone who didn’t really know or trust herself yet.

So maybe I need to redefine my own boundaries.

Nevertheless, it does seem a shame that, in addition to all the external obstacles we can be afraid of, we also have to be afraid of ourselves.

If I don’t DO different, I will never KNOW different.

Time to let go.

For those of you who did not see it, here is the link to the podcast. And thank you to everyone who has already reached out with such lovely feedback and support. Without this community, there is NO WAY I would be where I am today in the first place.

My heartfelt love and support to you all.

Link to Video

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Much Love,

Lisa

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Lisa Hamil is a founding member and host for The SOS Collective, an online international women’s recovery and support group. However, this blog and any classes or coaching offered by Lisa Hamil LLC are separate from and not affiliated in any way with The SOS Collective.